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Post by pghram on Mar 17, 2017 22:25:13 GMT -5
Sorry to hear about your Mom, we will definitely keep you in our prayers.
Peace, Rich
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Post by spiceman on Mar 17, 2017 22:52:49 GMT -5
God loves You and Mom. She understands what's going on. Everything has good in it but sometimes it's real hard to find but find the good, you will. I promise it's there.:)) My prayers are for you and Mom.
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Post by quartz on Mar 17, 2017 23:25:20 GMT -5
Sorry to hear that, wishing the best for you and peace for your mom.
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Post by jamesp on Mar 18, 2017 7:21:48 GMT -5
Thanks my dear brothers in tumbling. A part of life we all have to go thru.
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Post by jamesp on Mar 18, 2017 7:26:29 GMT -5
"I am standing upon the seashore. A ship, at my side,
spreads her white sails to the moving breeze and starts
for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength.
I stand and watch her until, at length, she hangs like a speck
of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other.
Then, someone at my side says, "There, she is gone."
Gone where?
Gone from my sight. That is all. She is just as large in mast,
hull and spar as she was when she left my side.
And, she is just as able to bear her load of living freight to her destined port.
Her diminished size is in me -- not in her.
And, just at the moment when someone says, "There, she is gone,"
there are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices
ready to take up the glad shout, "Here she comes!"
- Henry Van Dyke"
How can anybody resist this forum ?
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Post by jamesp on Mar 18, 2017 7:33:47 GMT -5
Dang, you guys have me crying like a baby. Thanks so much for the kind words.
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Post by tims on Mar 18, 2017 7:42:34 GMT -5
Best wishes James.
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Post by MrMike on Mar 18, 2017 7:50:57 GMT -5
Dang, you guys have me crying like a baby. Thanks so much for the kind words. Thoughts & prayers my tumbling brother. There's nothing like the Love we have for our Mothers. Wishing peace and comfort for you both.
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Post by napoleonrags on Mar 18, 2017 22:44:21 GMT -5
jamesp keep on enjoying everything. I'm with you. Colin
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Post by jamesp on Mar 19, 2017 2:56:42 GMT -5
I have been updating my family about my Mom. Mostly clinical updates. She is under Hospice now and will likely pass shortly. Prayers and thoughts greatly appreciated.
For you that have felt Mom's love, this may be my final update:
Hospice keeping her comfortable. Friday she was breathing 20 breathes/min. continuously. Saturday her breathing is labored without injections of benzodiazepine. Hospice said this is due to her body shutting down. Hospice is in control now and keeping her comfortable. Mom has suffered very little in her 6 days at the hospital.
It is a great blessing to see her avoid long term suffering. IMO, she has been happy and content living under assisted care now for many years now. Memory Care @ Christian City is in deep grief for her loss. She has been by far their brightest light. I cannot emphasis how upset they are. She was by far the most treasured resident.
The nurses that met her when she was first admitted into the nursing home @ Christian City would come over and take their lunch breaks in her room to get a “Mommy fix” months after she was transferred to Memory Care. I would walk in her room and surprise them. They would scurry out as if guilty stealing a “Mommy fix”. Mostly Jamaican gals. I would tell them I was going to start billing them for these services. Then the Memory Care nurses caught on to this resource. Dolling her up every day. Talk about getting the best care. Mom had them around her little finger. She never missed a beat handing out “Mommy fixes”. How fortunate could I have been all of these 86 years. She was blessed beyond imagination simply because of her wonderful way.
"Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth."
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Post by snuffy on Mar 19, 2017 5:20:44 GMT -5
My thoughts and prayers with you James. It's tough to go through I know.My mother passed at 91 under hospice care at the nursing home where she lived.
snuffy
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Post by sdrockgal on Mar 21, 2017 15:14:31 GMT -5
Praying for you. That is a great picture of the two of you.
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Post by melhill1659 on Mar 22, 2017 20:49:26 GMT -5
Wonderful picture and your mom sounds like a beautiful lady, inside an out. Our hearts and prayers go out to you and your family.
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Post by aDave on Mar 22, 2017 23:39:20 GMT -5
Only wishing for the best for you and your family. Stay strong.
Dave
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Post by jamesp on Mar 23, 2017 5:17:00 GMT -5
Dreading seeing the (her) family members that neglected her for the past 11 years since she contracted Alzheimer's. Classic case of southern Christian hypocrisy at it's finest that turns my stomach. Hoping I can maintain a poker face, pay my respects to Mom and those that cared for her. And not choke the #$%@ out of the others.
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Post by Erich on Mar 23, 2017 5:58:28 GMT -5
My heart goes out to you James. I see you as a man of honor, integrity and love - a true christian in the original sense! Be comforted in knowing your Mom will always be with you and that you honored for these last eleven years!
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Post by jamesp on Mar 23, 2017 7:05:56 GMT -5
My heart goes out to you James. I see you as a man of honor, integrity and love - a true christian in the original sense! Be comforted in knowing your Mom will always be with you and that you honored for these last eleven years! I fear that if I did not take care of her the Saint she was, I was going to have to answer to a much higher power. And those that acted cruelly towards her will have to live w/themselves. Amazes me to see the contentment in those that were kind to her, and the exact opposite of those that were not. Her caretakers in the care unit that she lived at were the best family I ever had. Thanks Erich.
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Post by melhill1659 on Mar 23, 2017 9:10:30 GMT -5
Dreading seeing the (her) family members that neglected her for the past 11 years since she contracted Alzheimer's. Classic case of southern Christian hypocrisy at it's finest that turns my stomach. Hoping I can maintain a poker face, pay my respects to Mom and those that cared for her. And not choke the #$%@ out of the others. Con an I went through similar anguish with his mom passing a few years ago. Man do I miss that awesome woman!!! He was very close to her as was I in the short few years I was lucky enough to have her in my life. Family members seem to be quick to offer help around outsiders but behind closed doors that disappears as quickly as the words spoken. Out of his hole family (a bunch of pew warmers I might add), his kids along with other family members She is the only one that Got Me and loved me for me and loved me for loving her son. Honor her memory well by just being thankful that it was you that spent the time with her an on the mean/flip side of that the satisfaction that in due time God Does Let KARMA take care of those that deserve it!!
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Post by Intheswamp on Mar 23, 2017 9:16:07 GMT -5
My heart goes out to you James. I see you as a man of honor, integrity and love - a true christian in the original sense! Be comforted in knowing your Mom will always be with you and that you honored for these last eleven years! I fear that if I did not take care of her the Saint she was, I was going to have to answer to a much higher power. And those that acted cruelly towards her will have to live w/themselves. Amazes me to see the contentment in those that were kind to her, and the exact opposite of those that were not. Her caretakers in the care unit that she lived at were the best family I ever had. Thanks Erich. Let their anguish be their anguish and your peace be your peace, James. You know the path that you have walked and the path that you will continue on. Your mother sounds like quiet the woman that has been a blessing to all that encountered her, pity those who missed out on that blessing 'cause our life path is one way...we can't go back and walk it anew. My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours, James. I'm just over here in 'Bama if you need to sit on a gravel bar or something... Ed
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Post by jamesp on Mar 23, 2017 9:31:22 GMT -5
Dreading seeing the (her) family members that neglected her for the past 11 years since she contracted Alzheimer's. Classic case of southern Christian hypocrisy at it's finest that turns my stomach. Hoping I can maintain a poker face, pay my respects to Mom and those that cared for her. And not choke the #$%@ out of the others. Con an I went through similar anguish with his mom passing a few years ago. Man do I miss that awesome woman!!! He was very close to her as was I in the short few years I was lucky enough to have her in my life. Family members seem to be quick to offer help around outsiders but behind closed doors that disappears as quickly as the words spoken. Out of his hole family (a bunch of pew warmers I might add), his kids along with other family members She is the only one that Got Me and loved me for me and loved me for loving her son. Honor her memory well by just being thankful that it was you that spent the time with her an on the mean/flip side of that the satisfaction that in due time God Does Let KARMA take care of those that deserve it!! Exact words spoken by my wife Melissa. It is OK. They know who they are. Oddly, non-family members reaped the benefits of her wonderful person. Glad that you had the pleasure of your dear MIL's acquaintance. You picked a good man, most likely he had a fine Mom.
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