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Post by fernwood on Dec 28, 2019 8:25:10 GMT -5
Participated in a great hair conversation with the owner of where I work and some mutual friends yesterday. These ladies spend a lot of time on their hair. Me, not so much. Just the basics.
A couple noted that I have great hair, lol. Said I could easily make it beautiful.
I had overheard this group talk about my hair before I joined them after clocking out at work.
Am looking for advice on hair of someone who is over 50.
My hair is a combo of dishwater blonde, red, blonde, light brown and white. The white hairs are very coarse and kinky. The other hairs glisten and are very thin. About 30% of the hair on the back of head is very short and fuzzy. White. This is due to being attacked at work in early 2018. The hair was ripped om my head. It has not grown in the same as the other.
I need a trim, as some hairs are split. Must keep hair long enough for a pony tail to put in caps I sometimes wear to work.
My hair, overall is currently about 2.5' from scalp. Have about 2" of split ends.
My friends at work suggested a soft, spiral perm, a couple weeks after a trim. I was good with that. The my daughter, who knows my hair and has done perms/coloring on it, said I should not get a perm. Just get the trim an leave it straight. No coloring, as that would damage hair further.
Any suggestions on products that could bring out the natural wave/curl in my hair? I have very soft water. Prefer to use Aussie products for wash/rinse, as my hair likes them.
Thanks.
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Post by taylor on Dec 28, 2019 22:21:29 GMT -5
Trust a professional...someone who makes their living caring for other folks hair. Very much like having a trusted mechanic or dentist.
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Post by toiv0 on Dec 28, 2019 23:23:55 GMT -5
Well what kind of comment is you could make your hair beautiful? Seems pretty rude to me.
One lady told me I would be better looking if I shaved and got a hair cut, she was pretty good looking. You should have seen the look on her face when I said " at least I can do something to improve my looks, you could start by brushing your teeth." I still know her and she has been a lot nicer.
So that being said, I think your hair is fine and you co workers need a lesson in civility.
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Post by rockjunquie on Dec 29, 2019 7:08:32 GMT -5
Your hair sounds damaged and transitioning. I would NOT perm it under any circumstances. Get a real pretty shorter hairstyle and let it grow out healthier.
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Post by rockjunquie on Dec 29, 2019 7:29:00 GMT -5
My hair, at my age, is also transitioning. I had gorgeous, thick Victorian hair full of body all my life, now it is half the thickness (which is still a lot) but the color and texture is changing. I use Aussie Moist, too. I think you should try the 3 minute miracle by them, too. Dyeing silver/white hair is really difficult. You don't know what color you'll get. I'm embracing my white hair. However, I am considering a shorter cut. My hair texture has changed so much that it gets ratty real easy. Shorter is better.
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Post by MsAli on Dec 29, 2019 7:51:55 GMT -5
The fact that they have talked about your hair and you've overheard them sounds like people that like to gossip and not people I would take advice from.
I also dont put a lot of effort into my hair, or my eyebrows (this BTW is a sin to some) or my nails, or my makeup and I've had very similar comments and or suggestions.
Why? Will it make me a better human being if I did all this? Will I be more of a woman? Will you like me more? & Yes, I'm serious when I ask these questions.
Still haven't really gotten a good answer back
Side note: My hair all fell out when I had cancer treatment. It was one of the hardest things ever. Tried to be positive AF about it, but yeah it sucked. It never did come back like it use to be either. People, women especially can be such bleeeeppppp about it. Never will understand why my hair affects someone else and people feel the need to talk about it.
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Post by HankRocks on Dec 29, 2019 8:54:53 GMT -5
(If I may add something from a husband's perspective) My wife had DBS(Deep Brain Stimulation)surgery for her Parkinson's back in May of this year. One of the pre-op procedures was to shave her head which I could tell she was very apprehensive about. Anyway, surgery was a success and after a while the hair began growing back only being delayed around the large scar in front of the skull. Eventually it all grew back evenly. She did decide that the short hair look was for her and has kept it that way since. It really looks nice on her. For one thing, she now saves a decent amount of time in the shower, and afterwards dealing with hair. She never was a big make-up person and only did the minimum if that. I still remember her Mom complaining to her about putting on her make-up, complaints which she mostly chose to ignore. Between Sports and then raising 3 kids makeup and always having perfect hair wasn't very important.
For me it's about being comfortable with who you are, folks who pick on such things are usually very shallow or they are self-conscious about their own looks. They usually don't make the kind of friends one needs anyway.
The DBS surgery has been a complete success. After about the 3rd or 4th tuning session all of the physical manifestations of Parkinson's are now controlled. The tremors on the left side, the freezing of the left foot, the spatial issues are almost back to normal. She even managed to wrap most of her Christmas presents for the first time in 3 years. Now that's a real Christmas gift!!
Henry
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Post by fernwood on Dec 29, 2019 9:09:05 GMT -5
I used the 3 minute miracle for years and my hair loved it. Now, it is no longer available anywhere by me. I will check online for it.
Short hair is not an option for me. Makes my face look like a Zombie, lol. Plus, I must be able to have a pony tail and wear caps at work occasionally.
Since I am supposed to look "presentable" for my work position, I was not worried about their comments. I appreciated the hair conversation.
Something else is in the works, which I cannot share publicly. It depends on my professional presentation. We have many upper scale customers. Some are regulars.
I have done a lot for eyebrows, face, hands, finger nails, etc. Am allergic to most makeup. Teeth are next on the list, as I only have about 5 partial ones. Received a quote for $50,000.00 for implants. Had the denture eval. My jaw will not support dentures, according to 4 dentists. They suggested the implants. Quote was received for someone other than them.
My good friend, who was/is my daughter's Godmother lost all her hair during cancer treatments. It has grown back, better than ever. She is a stage performer and a beautiful, organic, intuitive person. Reminds me a lot of you Allison, in some ways.
This is a make or break situation, as there are few jobs I can physically do right now.
Stay tuned for details.
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Post by hummingbirdstones on Dec 29, 2019 11:05:07 GMT -5
You could always buy a wig and wear that to work. The good quality ones are just about impossible to tell from real hair. As a matter of fact, they make them out of human hair. That would be the easiest route to take. I'm in agreement that doing a perm on your hair is not an option. Perms are the most destructive thing you can do to your hair. Coloring is also not good, but far less destructive if you take good care of your hair. Regular trims help because once you have split ends they will travel up the hair shaft unless you have them cut off.
I used to have long hair, but a couple of years ago I had it cut into a long bob (about shoulder length). It's much easier to take care of and looks more professional when I have to meet and be with clients. I do have my hair colored (have to -- it's all gray) and have regular appointments about 8 weeks apart. We do alternating touch-ups and full colors and it works good for me. I have the advantage of having an awesome stylist.
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