neural
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Post by neural on May 1, 2020 11:22:55 GMT -5
So... at this moment, the center of my life is having a brain tumor removed at a hospital in Phoenix.
While we only have an MRI from 2014, and then another one from Sept. 2019 as a frame for when the tumor showed up, we both agreed that it's likely the tumor showed up and started to grow about 3 years ago when she had an onset of bad headaches. Or at least that was when it's presence started to affect her brain physically resulting in swelling.
It's a non-invasive tumor, existing in the layers between the skull and the brain, but due to it's size and presence, it *has* compressed part of her right frontal lobe.
It has me wondering how much that has affected our relationship over the past 3 years. Looking back, I think it has changed her personality in subtle ways.
Assuming nothing goes wrong (only a tiny chance of that), I can't help but wonder if some of the friction between us will go away after she recovers. I find I have been feeling like she's not the woman I fell in love with, and looking at it now, that may actually be true.
The brain isn't quite like a sponge, so when the tumor is gone, it won't just spring back, but after the first couple weeks, the headaches and swelling the tumor caused should be gone. The mild cognative issues should fade. If all goes well.
Not overly stressed about this, but... just the things going through my mind.
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Post by miket on May 1, 2020 11:28:59 GMT -5
Sorry to hear this. If you want someone else's two cents it had to have an effect on things. Pain and stress definitely change a person. I hope things go well with the surgery and with the other things as well.
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Post by knave on May 1, 2020 11:43:12 GMT -5
I recently came to grips with this one. My wife takes meds to regulate her thyroid, and I just recently realized if she misses a day or two, her mood takes a very steep dive. I had been taking it more personally when we had stress, but to get along better I just need to remind her to take the meds.
Wishing you and your wife the best with the surgery. Appreciate you sharing this.
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Post by mohs on May 1, 2020 11:43:28 GMT -5
You are exactly right about personality changes Obvious change occurs during natural growth & sometime not for the best
Add drastic physical /chemical altering & those changes only magnify
sorry to read all these problem best to ya I know how tough it can be Your doing the best ya can & that noteworthy!
really can't express it any better besides fingers and heart crossed for a the best possible outcome
Ed
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neural
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Post by neural on May 1, 2020 15:17:30 GMT -5
I don't want to leave this thread hanging for now or for anyone in the future: Surgery was successful. Now starts the recovery journey.
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Post by miket on May 1, 2020 15:18:24 GMT -5
I don't want to leave this thread hanging for now or for anyone in the future: Surgery was successful. Now starts the recovery journey. Glad to hear it! 😃
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jimaz
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Post by jimaz on May 1, 2020 18:26:21 GMT -5
Best wishes for a speedy recovery.
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Post by hummingbirdstones on May 1, 2020 20:23:15 GMT -5
(((((HUGS)))) for you and Cindy.
When all this virus crap is over, I'll give you real ones.
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Post by rockjunquie on May 2, 2020 5:26:47 GMT -5
I'm happy for you that the surgery was a success. I hope that her brain recovers 100%. My DH is a challenge to be around when he doesn't take his meds. We almost broke up over it many years ago. Now he doesn't forget.
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Post by fernwood on May 2, 2020 5:53:06 GMT -5
Glad the surgery was successful.
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Fossilman
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Post by Fossilman on May 2, 2020 11:06:16 GMT -5
Speedy recovery and hopefully things fall back into place..
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Post by lookatthat on May 2, 2020 17:44:19 GMT -5
Glad to hear that it's so far so good. Don't be discouraged if it takes a while for her to regain her equilibrium. Having a serious health issue is hard, but surgery can also leave you off-balance. It's a lot to come to grips with, and the physical and psycological effects of surgery itself can create some (usually temporary) issues.
Hang in there... better days ahead!
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