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Post by jamesp on Dec 22, 2016 10:05:51 GMT -5
No James that's not the reason!!! Your reply about your mom brought out the need for this for me and othrrs!!! As usual we work to bring out the needs of the tribe!!! Please don't change anything Jim just you and others help me get this set up so others can dedicate their love to lost ones??? Many people in this forum are at the age we are losing loved ones. And such loss will continue. We are a big family and care about each other. Your suggestion is a great idea. A category to deal with our losses would be healing.
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Post by jamesp on Dec 22, 2016 10:11:06 GMT -5
Hate to say, but the subject of Mom looking at the obituaries in the newspaper on a daily basis was a source of regular conversation. I have been teasing her about that practice for the past 20 years. Her Mom did the same thing and she used to tease her Mom about this practice too. Practice seems to be handed down generations.
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Post by rockjunquie on Dec 22, 2016 10:45:31 GMT -5
James, I am really sorry to hear about your mom. This time of year it's so hard, too. My parents are gone and my father in law is gone 20 years now. He is in Arlington. I had the good fortune of donating a wreath in his name for the cemetery on Wreath Day a week ago. It brought up so many wonderful memories. Anyway, the tagline for the event was this quote: A man dies 2 deaths, one when he stops breathing and then when his name is spoken for the last time. Each person placing the wreath says the name of the deceased. Remember. Cherish and remember. Your mother will be with you for as long as you live.
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Post by rockjunquie on Dec 22, 2016 10:48:28 GMT -5
My Mommy was put in hospice last December and passed away a fee weeks later. Fortunately I was able to fly into Sumter Sc from Quartzsite to be with her. I spent every day of her last two weeks with her. She went into a coma and they unhooked all fluids etc and she made it two weeks and one day. My Mommy was one tough lady, she fought a long battle with Parkinsons. She didn't want to be in the dark so I promised to her that I would keep a light on for her. I keep a solar light on her grave. They throw them away every time they mow at her graveyard. I just keep putting them back. I know she isn't there but when she looks down from heaven I know she sees the light and feels my love.... The solar light is about the sweetest thing I have heard in a long time. You're a good son, Bill. I have a habit of pacing small stones on a grave as a remembrance. A lot of people do, so not many people will mess with them.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 22, 2016 10:52:11 GMT -5
My Mommy was put in hospice last December and passed away a fee weeks later. Fortunately I was able to fly into Sumter Sc from Quartzsite to be with her. I spent every day of her last two weeks with her. She went into a coma and they unhooked all fluids etc and she made it two weeks and one day. My Mommy was one tough lady, she fought a long battle with Parkinsons. She didn't want to be in the dark so I promised to her that I would keep a light on for her. I keep a solar light on her grave. They throw them away every time they mow at her graveyard. I just keep putting them back. I know she isn't there but when she looks down from heaven I know she sees the light and feels my love.... The solar light is about the sweetest thing I have heard in a long time. You're a good son, Bill. I have a habit of pacing small stones on a grave as a remembrance. A lot of people do, so not many people will mess with them. That is a Jewish tradition. I do this as well. Rarely visit gravesites. But always have some nice stones to leave as a marker of my visit when I do.
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Post by rockjunquie on Dec 22, 2016 10:53:48 GMT -5
James, I am really sorry to hear about your mom. This time of year it's so hard, too. My parents are gone and my father in law is gone 20 years now. He is in Arlington. I had the good fortune of donating a wreath in his name for the cemetery on Wreath Day a week ago. It brought up so many wonderful memories. Anyway, the tagline for the event was this quote: A man dies 2 deaths, one when he stops breathing and then when his name is spoken for the last time. Each person placing the wreath says the name of the deceased. Remember. Cherish and remember. Your mother will be with you for as long as you live. Conversely: I have always thought that a person is alive until nobody says their name any more. At least in memory. I have a few names I say often. Did I say it wrong? I think that is what I said, or, at least meant. Yes, I have some name that are on my lips. My brother passed away in 85, I try to keep his memory alive. He had such a short time on this earth and so few knew him. But, I keep him in the family.
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Post by rockjunquie on Dec 22, 2016 10:57:14 GMT -5
The solar light is about the sweetest thing I have heard in a long time. You're a good son, Bill. I have a habit of pacing small stones on a grave as a remembrance. A lot of people do, so not many people will mess with them. That is a Jewish tradition. I do this as well. Rarely visit gravesites. But always have some nice stones to leave as a marker of my visit when I do. You are right, it is. I wasn't going to bring it up, especially since I know that a lot of non Jews do it, too. My ancestors graves are in a plot in Maine which goes back to before we were a country. There are many pebbles there, but no Jews. My husband's family is in a Jewish plot. Oddly, there aren't as many pebbles. I think vandals get to them. Time has shifted the area and now it is behind a strip joint in the bad part of town.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 22, 2016 11:06:59 GMT -5
Conversely: I have always thought that a person is alive until nobody says their name any more. At least in memory. I have a few names I say often. Did I say it wrong? I think that is what I said, or, at least meant. Yes, I have some name that are on my lips. My brother passed away in 85, I try to keep his memory alive. He had such a short time on this earth and so few knew him. But, I keep him in the family. Â No. I read it wrong!! It's early here and I'm hungry and out of eggs. Humble apologies.
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Post by orrum on Dec 22, 2016 11:11:21 GMT -5
To each his own. Thanks Jim gor making me remember my Mommy at this busy time. Her grave is far away in memory sometimes....
Thanks pardner it was a good moment!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 22, 2016 11:25:39 GMT -5
To each his own. Thanks Jim gor making me remember my Mommy at this busy time. Her grave is far away in memory sometimes.... Thanks pardner it was a good moment! I think your use of lights is charming and special. Unique really. Only something a good son could do. You walk the walk amigo. I'm proud you are a friend.
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Post by captbob on Dec 22, 2016 11:34:50 GMT -5
Does this mean that there won't be any litigation over a leaking tumbler barrel cap?
*sigh*
Such spoofing potential shot to hell.
< back to Mother in Law coming for Christmas cleaning >
doody...
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Post by orrum on Dec 22, 2016 12:17:00 GMT -5
Nope Jim still has to face The Lovely Susan, just not soon!!!
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Post by jamesp on Dec 22, 2016 18:38:58 GMT -5
Sorry Bob. Thanks for the kind words Tela. Looking forward to the big day Bill.
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Post by orrum on Dec 22, 2016 19:01:07 GMT -5
Hey Jim I am gonna pour thst barrel gill of some half ruined polyurethan, do you reckon it will harden and work? I hate to throw away those expensive ends.
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Post by jamesp on Dec 22, 2016 19:11:26 GMT -5
Hey Jim I am gonna pour thst barrel gill of some half ruined polyurethan, do you reckon it will harden and work? I hate to throw away those expensive ends. I don't know. Never used polyurethane. Not much sticks to PVC.
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Post by 1dave on Dec 23, 2016 12:50:48 GMT -5
Way late to this thread. James is guilty... Big mistake ttuth... Misleading.... Oh he is gonna get it... More details to follow......... When all else fails, follow the instructions. orrum You must be . . .
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Post by orrum on Dec 23, 2016 14:46:51 GMT -5
Yep that's me....Lost n confused but loving my life!!!
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