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Post by rockpickerforever on Jul 23, 2014 18:24:04 GMT -5
My mom used to throw things, like her wooden Dr. Scholls sandals. She quit throwing things when she stuck a fork in the wall next to my brother's head.
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Post by bsky4463 on Jul 23, 2014 18:48:07 GMT -5
ayup....and i deserved it
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Post by rockjunquie on Jul 23, 2014 21:16:52 GMT -5
Great responses! I see I wasn't alone. Yes, I was the wild child. kap, I, too, got whipped with the hairbrush. I , too, had one broken on my rear end. Boy, was Mom pissed! But, mostly, I got the belt. I remember the old neighborhood days when you didn;t want to be caught in trouble by your neighbors, either! I had a few of those spankings, too. And, I had a few knuckle raps at school along with swats. Swats always made me laugh, which caused me more swats. I have 3 kids. All I had to do was look wrong at two of them when they were bad and that was enough to put the shame into them. But one kid.... the one my mother cursed me with, seemed to beg for spankings. When I say spankings- I literally mean over my lap and on the butt. I wasn't quite as harsh as my parents. She always had it coming even if I was late doing it.
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Post by Sabre52 on Jul 23, 2014 21:38:48 GMT -5
My hate favorites were the parents with cowardly kids who would intervene in a fair fight and grab you and hold you so their kids could beat on you or try to beat on you themselves. I suspect that would be frowned on these days *L*. The kids never hit too hard though as after all, the parents wouldn't always be around *L*. I found that practice especially irritating as I was not one to start a fight and would avoid one unless unduly provoked. So,some dumbass pokes the dog with a stick and then when he gets bitten calls on daddy to bail him out. Not cool in my neighborhood.....Mel
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Post by Fossilman on Jul 23, 2014 22:38:08 GMT -5
Spankings were a part of life back than,as was fighting...We would fist fight,get tired or just win or lose,it was done.. Now days they knife you or shoot you over nothing! As said years ago,can't stand the heat,stay out of the kitchen...I taught my kids to protect themselves with logic and words,if that didn't work,than kick some ass... I taught them to fight,the girls too,but to use it as a last resort..... Our children are adults now and they do tell me,Dad we know now why you whipped our butts and taught us right from wrong,thank you... Must have done something right! On the other hand my Dad was an asshole and beat us all,the whole family!! My brothers and I seen blood on the floor everynite at our house! My brothers and I made a pack between us to never abuse our family like the old man did... We stuck to our words....Spankings yes,beatings no!
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Post by adrian65 on Jul 24, 2014 5:55:13 GMT -5
Everytime! I recall once I predicted the "storm" and put a small pillow to shield my "soft target". Needless to say Mom couldn't spank me that time because of the good laugh she had.
Little did they know which way the society would head to and how useless would become having good manners these days ... it's almost taken as weird. But I think they would have done it anyway and I'm kinda glad they did.
Adrian
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Post by bcrockhound on Jul 24, 2014 6:47:56 GMT -5
I did not get spanked once. That probably speaks to my generation, as I'm 25. I don't think parents who spanked or do now are bad at all. I know I will never be violent toward a child I have. I feel extremely lucky and blessed to have grown up in a house of unconditional love, support, comfort, happiness and safety. I couldn't spank a kid if I were paid.
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Post by snowmom on Jul 24, 2014 7:32:11 GMT -5
mom got to me early. she used to laugh when she told how I would sit on my hands whenever she approached me as a baby. I guess she thoroughly intimidated me when I was young because I don't remember getting hit after about age 5. I was terrified of her until the day she died. Mom switched to using a flyswatter on the younger & ornery ones, but I don't remember seeing her hit any of them before age 2. I was the first- the experimental model. All spankings and other physical punishment stopped when the younger ones figured out they could fight back, and did. I never had to spank my first, he was easily trained. The second got spanked to start with, but I quickly realized she would die before spanking affected her and I wasn't going to escalate to beatings. We found isolation worked better with her. "go to your room" or in many instances physically placing her in her room, was much more effective and safer. Years later she would be diagnosed with inflammatory brain disease which even then must have affected her behavior. Difficult doesn't begin to describe it. Many people told me I didn't spank her enough. People in the church encouraged me to have an exorcism (no kidding). Sometimes it is not that the child is 'bad' or that the parenting is 'bad' but that there are other things in the mix. I tend to feel a lot of sympathy with parents of difficult children, knowing how I was judged and blamed for what turned out to be a treatable medical condition. Thank God for today's ability to diagnose and treat conditions like hers. 40 years ago she would have been lobotomized and left chained naked to a bench. please do not interpret this as saying that discipline has no place in a home. The best thing a parent can do for a kid is to set limits and enforce them. The thing that seems to be missing in many homes is consistent parenting. If the line is crossed, stop and correct the child immediately. Don't ignore it 5 times and get mad when it happens the 6th, for crying out loud!
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Post by jamesp on Jul 24, 2014 9:48:59 GMT -5
A spanking is nothing compared to what the real world will throw at a child. If it takes a spanking then you better to get the child's mind right. The real world deals out worse than any spanking. Seen too many brilliant spoiled kids get chewed up and spit out by the way things really are once they leave home. And no one but the parents to blame. Children need boundaries and feel a sense of concern from their parents when disciplined.
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Post by lparker on Jul 24, 2014 13:42:50 GMT -5
I never got a spanking I didn't deserve - either with a belt or a lilac switch, which I had to cut myself, and it had better be a good one or I had to cut another.
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Post by wireholic on Jul 24, 2014 14:28:02 GMT -5
Not often but when I did - I deserved it! Mostly I was lucky & didn't get caught
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Post by ash on Jul 24, 2014 14:49:56 GMT -5
yes I did...and when my wife is cooperative, I still get spanked to this very day! Um but that is probably too much information.
I think I got Whooped more than spanked. I did earn them tho lol. I would rather be spanked than pinched I must say. I can still remember on day in church, sitting in the balcony with my mom and cousin, yeah he was a bad influence on me lol. We were pulling balls from the carpet and dropping them on the folks in pews below during prayers and such. My mom snatched me up and put herself between the two of us and pinched up both under our arms, halfway between the elbow and underarm...MY GOD that hurt! I really think her nail hit the bone on both sides! Funny the things you remember.
I also remember the last time my Grandmother tried to spank me. She came after me with a switch and I decided that it was NOT going to happen so I ran and got the dining table between us and just went back and forth. Finally, she stopped and told me, "I'll show you. Just wait until your daddy gets home!" She got the last laugh on that one for sure. I don't remember the whipping that night, but I do remember the sound of his belt popping as he stalked down the hall and I also remember that it was one that I probably should have remembered.
Extra: My mom and aunt told me that they thought that my Grandmother was the meanest woman on Earth because she would lose it laughing when she spanked them; she was the disciplinarian of the house. One day we were chatting, not that long ago, and she confided in me that she felt bad cause she would get tickled at the girls antics as they tried to jump around while she spanked them. I got a kick out of it all. I'm also pretty sure that they earned it just as much as I did heh.
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Post by phil on Jul 24, 2014 16:35:46 GMT -5
[quote author=" bcrockhound" source="/post/755666/thread" timestamp="1406202476" I know I will never be violent toward a child [/quote] Spanking is not violence, spanking is discipline and punishment. beatings are violence.....
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Post by bcrockhound on Jul 24, 2014 18:00:36 GMT -5
[quote author=" bcrockhound" source="/post/755666/thread" timestamp="1406202476" I know I will never be violent toward a child Spanking is not violence, spanking is discipline and punishment. beatings are violence..... [/quote] I don't mean to disparage parents who spank or make them seem like child-beaters. Parents can parent how they like. I do think spanking is a form of violence (by definition of a physical act intending to hurt). Reading this thread, I'm grateful to have not grown up in a home where I feared my parents. I don't think fear is a prerequisite for obedience, but respect is. On a related note, I despise the "wussification" of kids today, namely things like not keeping score in kids' sports or removing letter grades and just having comments on report cards. Shielding kids from reality only slows development and sets up kids for a harsh dose of reality later on, in my opinion. I am certainly not the kind of guy who's thinking spankers are monsters or barbarians, just offering my take from probably a different generation than most of you. And I'm with ash - the only person who spanks me is my significant other, ha.
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Post by phil on Jul 24, 2014 18:26:28 GMT -5
[quote author=" bcrockhound" source="/post/755666/thread" timestamp="1406202476" I don't mean to disparage parents who spank or make them seem like child-beaters. Parents can parent how they like. I do think spanking is a form of violence (by definition of a physical act intending to hurt). /[quote} See, there's the problem. Spanking is not a physical act intending to hurt, if you're hitting with that intent, you're not spanking, you're committing an act of violence. Here's the definition of spanking. Nowhere does it say with intent to hurt. spank 1 [spangk] verb (used with object) 1. to strike (a person, usually a child) with the open hand, a slipper, etc., especially on the buttocks, as in punishment. noun 2. a blow given in spanking; a smart or resounding slap.
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Post by bcrockhound on Jul 24, 2014 18:42:04 GMT -5
[quote author=" bcrockhound" source="/post/755666/thread" timestamp="1406202476" I don't mean to disparage parents who spank or make them seem like child-beaters. Parents can parent how they like. I do think spanking is a form of violence (by definition of a physical act intending to hurt). /[quote} See, there's the problem. Spanking is not a physical act intending to hurt, if you're hitting with that intent, you're not spanking, you're committing an act of violence. Here's the definition of spanking. Nowhere does it say with intent to hurt. spank 1 [spangk] verb (used with object) 1. to strike (a person, usually a child) with the open hand, a slipper, etc., especially on the buttocks, as in punishment. noun 2. a blow given in spanking; a smart or resounding slap. What punishment would spanking be if it didn't hurt? If it's supposed to be disciplinary and a punishment, then it is supposed to be a thing the child does not want to endure. The act is hitting the child. What part is supposed to be the punishment if not the feeling from the actual force of the hand or object on the child? Anyway, I would say this is semantics. Physical punishment is not up my alley, but I don't tell other people how to parent and don't think less of people who spank.
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Post by chassroc on Jul 25, 2014 8:53:50 GMT -5
yeah..spanking is definitely violent and violence.
If controlled (and thats a big if), there may be justification for corporal punishment, but spankings may be the result of anger and frustration and a lack of desire to deal with the behavioral issues at hand...
and all those of you who think it was good that you were spanked, I don't get it ( begs lots of questions about just what are you thinking, how much guilt do you carry around, and what could a child or infant possibly do that warrants corporal punishment?
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Post by marinedad on Jul 25, 2014 10:24:28 GMT -5
if I got poor grades on my report card in grade school my dad would make me strip naked and stand in the bathtub while he filled up a cup of cold tap water repeatidly and threw it on me. then the big black belt would come out. I pleaded with the nuns at school not to make my parents sign the report card, because I will come to school the next day with welts. I got told take it home and get it signed! beatings were common, it wasn't until my h.s. days as a junior I told him one day him and I would lock horns and he had better kill me because if he didn't, I would kill him. I was afraid as an adult I would repeat the pattern, but instead we raised our son and daughter to be responsible adults, with a few spankings and standing in the corner included.
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Post by rockjunquie on Jul 25, 2014 10:28:00 GMT -5
yeah..spanking is definitely violent and violence. If controlled (and thats a big if), there may be justification for corporal punishment, but spankings may be the result of anger and frustration and a lack of desire to deal with the behavioral issues at hand... and all those of you who think it was good that you were spanked, I don't get it ( begs lots of questions about just what are you thinking, how much guilt do you carry around, and what could a child or infant possibly do that warrants corporal punishment? When my son was young he saw the head of all military pediatricians. I asked him about spankings. He said that he thought it was warranted when a kid did something that was life threatening. If spanked very rarely, it leaves a mighty impression. Like when I caught my son trying to stick a fork in an outlet. Or, when I was playing with matches. Or, when I was out waaaaay later than I should have been. Or, when I was caught out riding my new bike in traffic. Or, when my 5 year old daughter bolted from my hand and jumped in front of a mac truck. (Yes, she did and I have the gray hair to prove it.) Kids think they are invincible, they aren't. I do think it was good that I was spanked. And, yes, incredibly, I even believe my parents loved me because of it (and other things, of course). My kids, who were rarely spanked, but necessarily spanked, thank me for it. I carry zero guilt. Why do you find it necessary to personalize your argument with a such an inflammatory closing statement against people who believe differently than you do? That's just rude. Don't be a hater.
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Post by rockjunquie on Jul 25, 2014 10:30:51 GMT -5
if I got poor grades on my report card in grade school my dad would make me strip naked and stand in the bathtub while he filled up a cup of cold tap water repeatidly and threw it on me. then the big black belt would come out. I pleaded with the nuns at school not to make my parents sign the report card, because I will come to school the next day with welts. I got told take it home and get it signed! beatings were common, it wasn't until my h.s. days as a junior I told him one day him and I would lock horns and he had better kill me because if he didn't, I would kill him. I was afraid as an adult I would repeat the pattern, but instead we raised our son and daughter to be responsible adults, with a few spankings and standing in the corner included. Geez, I'm sorry. I'm sorry for anyone who was truly beat as a child. That is a sickness in the parent and not a problem with a child. I agree, beatings are never called for. Spankings sometimes are. Good for you for recognizing that you did not want to follow that path.
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