bcrockhound
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Post by bcrockhound on Jul 27, 2014 19:37:37 GMT -5
I was just talking to my youngest brother- who rarely ever got spanked, btw, and he reminded me that study after study has concluded that being emotionally/psychologically abused was as bad, if not worse, than being spanked or even physically abused. Hard to believe unless you really think about it. Emotional scars stay with us. Just thought I would throw that out there. I think you're right and it's important to consider the whole picture when talking about this subject. A superficial view of what's seen might condemn a spanker and exalt a parent who never spanks, but that ignores the "unseen" entirely. A child with immense pressure from his parents to achieve certain grades might never be spanked but suffer far worse mentally than a child who was spanked simply as discipline. It is not so black and white and though it may be easy to call shame on what we can see, it is not so easy to remember how much we don't see. The ultimate judge I might say is the child - those of you who were spanked and are happy/fine about it now are proof it was not abuse.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 27, 2014 23:29:44 GMT -5
Spanked.. No.. More like Beat to a bloody pulp.. I ended up getting beat up because I stood up for our dog.. My father hit the dog and my self so hard we (the dog and I)went threw the cheesy plaster walls back in the old house we lived in. So coming from a very abusive family, I was fortunate that my Mother took us both away from her abusive husband. Rather than give your post a "thumbs up" that may get taken incorrectly, I'll quote and reply that it is good you survived the ordeal. I am glad to see you here too. Welcome to the website.
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Simon
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Post by Simon on Jul 28, 2014 4:00:55 GMT -5
Emotional abuse is definitely worse, physical scars fade with time, but the damage done to a persons mental well being is permanent, even with treatment a lot of people don't recover properly, and those that do recover tend to still be very thin skinned.
I survived the worst kind of abuse you can think of, makes me a lot stronger than a lot of people I know, but also makes me weaker, I have trouble with the easiest situations, things that most people breeze through stump me. I got this far on my own two feet so I figure I can go the rest of the way.
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transcendental
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Post by transcendental on Jul 28, 2014 9:15:46 GMT -5
Oh heck yes I did and definitely deserved it. Leather belt was the tool of choice by my mom, up until I laughed at it and it wasn't a very effective punishment anymore. That pretty much was the end of it. There's a big difference between spanking and beating a child. Instilling some fear and a very obvious way to convey there are consequences for actions is something kids these days are lacking for sure. For the most part my kids get sent to the corner but if they are beating on each other they get a whap. Teaches them that hitting hurts and they should treat others how they would like to be treated. There is always a discussion to follow and they need to apologize to each other and hug it out.
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